Mini dining set and kitchen cabinets

2012
05.13

1b

Hello everybody! I hope you are all fine. me, I am not so good. I haven’t been doing well in my studies. :(

1c

I do my laundry and wash my school shoes here.

1a

We use Amway SA8 detergent.It keeps my clothes clean.

1i

Mummy complains a lot. The kitchen is too small.

1f

I use microwave oven every day.

1e

They have already delivered our new cabinets. Our mini dining set.

1h

I feel very tired. The house is always in a mess with cement dust and sand every where. I hope it will be over soon. This will be where I do my laundry when it rains. With a washing machine.
1d

I can sit here to study or drink tea with daddy. I like this very much.

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It is usually windy and not warm here. We are at the top of a small hill. I wish I were smart and my studies will improve :( Daddy is different nowadays.

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Not so active. Grumpy and sits in front of the telly but not watching. Mummy says he is getting cranky as he gets older. We use an indoor antenna for the tv. RM11.00. I broke my glasses.Nobody is in the mood to celebrate Mothers’ Day. :(

Mother of mine is so unfair

2012
05.05

Interesting character: Male early twenties. 1.76m, 70kg. Huge eyes. Nice teeth, slightly tanned and enviable abs muscles.

Melvin : She said she came back to see me once when I was twelve years old but I have no memory. Grandma is dead. I have no way of confirming it. I had to leave school even though I did extremely well in my studies. I couldn’t afford to continue as I needed to work to support myself and grandma.

I asked that woman about my father but she side-stepped the question. I googled the name up on the net but there was no mention of him. Anyway he might as well not exist. Perhaps he doesn’t even know I exist.

I just feel bad that grandma being so old and frail had to raise me up all by herself. We had to scrimp like fanatics, obsessed with money and the meals for the day. I shall forever remember her. She did the best she could under the circumstances I guess.

Now this woman whose name is on my birth certificate claims she has retired and is now back. She turned up at my doorstep with bags and all with her three school going kids and expects me to take care of them all and give them a home. I never knew they existed at all. They are now living on my food and living under my roof but behaving like little princes and princesses and I am the evil step-father.

Oh, I am now renting a single-storey terrace house in Permai. After grandma died everybody was scambling to sell her house. I had no choice but to move out. I am already having a hard time as it is to make ends meet.

Does she have a right to ask this of me? She screamed the other day that without her I wouldn’t even exist. She shouted she had to carry me for nine months and labour was difficult. Life is so unfair. By the time her kids are independent, I would have missed my chance to settle down!!!!!!!!! Life is so unfair.

Ostrich Farm

2012
04.29

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Do you know what this is? It is an ostrich.

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At first I felt uncomfortable but I soon got used to it.

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Ostriches are beautiful animals. Different ostriches have different personalities. I saw so many species of ostriches.

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I had an exciting time.

2d

I was told ostriches are low calorie food.

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But to me, they are just cute. :)

2h

I am not sure if they were looking at me or if I were looking at them.

2g

Too big for the oven in my house.:)

2i

I found this ostrich egg. It is so so big.

High heels, China doll, two hands and two feet

2012
04.26

Interesting character : Su-yin, 1.58m, 56kg, mid to late twenties, salesperson/ street vendor

Su-yin : The way I look at it, high heels do not only make a woman look taller. They make her look sophisticated and classy. I dress simply in hot-pants and brightly coloured singlets most of the time but I have many pairs of high heels. I wear them everywhere. I go shopping for high heels once every few months.

I am not lonely here in Sibu as I have many local internet friends through skype and ICQ. You know what they are, don’t you? We can chat online with people through the net. Sometimes when there are no customers I pass my time by chatting. It is really fun. You must try it. First we give ourselves a fictitious name and describe ourselves, height and weight. It is really so fun. If I like them, I will go out and meet them.

I was meant for this job. I was never like a fragile flower but strong as bamboo even though I look fragile. I eat like a horse and I love meat unlike my other sisters here from China. I have only a few years of education. I am from a very rural place. My dad built a wooden tower hahaha more like a ladder against a tree and we climb up the tree when we need to make phone calls. But the reception is poor even at the best of times.That is why I don’t call home often.

There are two kinds of jobs. Black or white, we all make our own choices. I chose to obey the law and make a decent living without sacrificing my principles. As long as I have my own two hands and two feet, and everything else, of course, my family and I will never, ever starve.

Pre World War house in Sungai Merah, the Ting Villa

2012
04.26

old style residences
An old house still well maintained by the banks of the Red River or Sungai Merah.

Thanks so much to Timothy Ting and John Ting for their background of this house in Sungai Merah. I am sure readers would find it interesting. Comments and pic were taken from here

Timothy Ting (Kan Kien) says:

The “Old house” picture you posted is called “Ting Villa”. I lived in this house for a few years when I was young before moving to Canada. My cousins and relatives now live in this historic and magnificent house. “Ting Villa” was around during World War Two and the ceiling in the living room still shows scars of damage by Japanese airstrike. I have lots of good memories of Sungei Merah and will visit my home town one day

John Ting(Architect) says:
April 26, 2012 at 11:51 am (Edit)

This is our family home built in 1911 by our grandfather,his siblings and family before WWII. The design is rather progressive and innovative,even by today’s standards,and its design is sustainable, way before the current “green” or “sustainability” movements came into being and is vogue.

Some scientific rationale and fundamental principles of ancient Chinese geomany(the art,science and philosophy of siting,planning and designing buildings in harmony with the natural environment) and not the mythical aspects were implemented. However,this schema and edifice is very tropically sensible and sensitive, hence most sustainable, indeed. The site planning,design composition and functional layout,use of natural materials and architectural design details follow and echo fundamentally sound and timeless principles.

An example is the manner to bring natural light without the accompanying heat into the depths of the home and the manner to manage good natural ventilation without the penetration of the tropical rain so that the internal environment is always comfortable and conducive to living throughout the whole day and night. Another example is the use of natural building materials.

All the teak hardwood(belian) roof tiles,timber structural members,timber flooring, fenestrations and doors were brought from Indo-China as ballast in the trading ships which used to ply the South East Asian trade routes(part of the great Maritime Silk Routes),and the balau piles are totally water-friendly and last forever submerged under water,similar to the timber foundations of the wonderful world-class water-city…Venezia or Venice in English! The third example is the planting of great and tall trees around this home…hugh mango trees etc and ,of course,this house is sited along-side Sungei Merah(ie Malay name for “Red RIver” in English echoing the “Pearl River” in Fuzhou,Southern China).

Maybe I should stop my story-telling for now. Wishing one and all a blessed day,John TING Kang Chung (Past President,Singapore Institute of Architects

Straying males forlorn females and interfering mothers

2012
04.15

I have met some women on death row…. with terminal illness… we talked about the causes… they tell me it is true. They keep a grudge so deep till they forgot what it was… till I mentioned the possibilities of hate and anger deep within….told them to let it all go and release the person and find that peace ,…so they can heal themselves.

It is better to treasure what we have and cherish the space they gave to us in their hearts. It is sad to see them in this state. Really. So sad to see how they put up a brave front when we meet them…. sad and alone.

I blame the husbands and boyfriends. The happiness they let slip through their hands… I even know of some husbands in their 70′s fooling around….how clever they think they can cover their tracks… the secret gets leaked….the poor wife or girfriend will suffer in silence till they get sick.

Is it a coincidence the high incidence of cancers of the pancreas, breasts and womb? These are organs connected to the love senses and emotions. This topic very sensitive to many….I tell you cos I have met many cases like this… curi curi very shiok wan… they both men and women get a kind of thrill if they do it behind.. they think this liaison is worth the risks they take.

Just look to any of your friends wives and see for yourself the glow of their wives… not as bright as a women with confidence of herself… she hides her sorrows. that’s if you know first hand that their husband is cheating on them.

But there is a high number of single women who having no relations with men or boyfriends… they too get the same sicknesses….. their root cause is their mothers….a deep resentment for the expectation placed on them by their mothers….someone they secretly resent if there is unhappiness toward their choice or inability to catch a nice fellow…. like you 8-)

If a girl is very secretive or does not like opinions from others and dislikes anyone to give advice…. she is likely to get into trouble with minor lumps in the wrong places….especially if she has an elderly mother to take care off…. if the love and care for her mom is not there… then she is actually doing her ownself harm…. even so if she seems to be loving in the eyes of the world.

Next time if you are tempted to cheat on your loved ones… take heed of the outcome of this scenario of you shuttling to and fro to hospital to be by the bedside of the sweetheart you have destroyed.

The Other Woman

2012
04.13

Interesting character: Imelda, late thirties, 1.73m, 65kg. Single mother of two

Imelda : You are probably wondering why I am smiling, Bengbeng. :) I met my schoolmate this afternoon and she asked me what I was doing. I almost said, ” The other woman”. :) It has been like this for so long. But now my children have grown up. I just realized now that my career life is stable I don’t need to be the other woman now.

It is true all the men in my life have contributed to my children’s expenses but now I am financially independent. I can now pick and choose. I have never interfered with their lives and for them to be with me indicates their marriage life is not that great either. So why should I let it bother me? :)

The scraps they have thrown to my side from time to time obviously would not have been enough without all the hard work I have put in to put food on the dining table. I have invested some too to be the other woman. The clothing, the cosmetics and the money on my hair etc. But it can’t go on indefinitely, Bengbeng. I realize too the quality of man who flit in and out of my life has gone down a little too the past few years.

You know what, Bengbeng? Soon I will be a grandmother. Imagine that! I never imagined that one day I would be a grandmother. Life has been good to me. There were mistakes I made, men who took advantage of me and my limited resources. I now think of those episodes as unfortunate turn of events.

I don’t get that much attention nowadays no matter how I dress. My daughter-in-law is even using my cosmetics and wearing my clothes. They fit her even better now. They are now too youngish for me. From now on, I will do what I can to create a nest egg for my children. If God wills that I meet a good man, so be it but I will not despair over it now. My time for that is now over.


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I am watching Rooftop Prince now.

My bedroom and Winter Butterfly

2012
04.11

1h

How are you all? I am now thirteen years old already. This is my room. I have no curtains. Daddy said if I want new curtains, I must work hard for it.
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Easter dwellings of the heart

2012
04.10

Good Friday and Easter Sunday has passed just like that. It made me reflect on a lot of stuff I normally do not give a second thought to. Bear with me as I share with you my inner thoughts.

It’s darn hard to be Catholic….every turn is a challenge… many things undone or did… deep down we know we could have done better. To withhold back love…. to never show its healing balm…. to forfeit its due.. is the greatest sin a heart can do to one another.

The heart is where all the feelings of hate, envy, pride, jealousy, rage, unforgiveness, revenge, thoughtlessness, and all things foul reside deep in its unseen caverns.

it’s an ongoing battle we all know too well that goes on unnoticed behind smiling faces.

The pretense only does the beholder injustice … it eats the heart alive from within…..its fruits are the short lived joy of satisfaction the unfortunate soul receives as her reward…. the cycle is a vicious one … it destroys the soul.

Come Easter… comes a chance to redeem ourselves… to the degree of our willingness to let go of all ….and surrender our broken heart to be made anew by a soothing and refreshing …grace of being forgiven and made whole once again.

Someone who loves us unconditionally, who take away the sins of the world… is our faith in a Redeemer to brush away our imperfections.

But it comes with a cost … for those who have not known our love and kindness.. and have passed on from this world… with no consolation of loving us in return or having known that they were treasures and sparkling jewels who were placed in our path to show us the way and light up our darkest paths on this journey of life.

Changing seasons and passage of time

2012
04.07

Living in Malaysia i was never aware of Time moving on by looking at nature. The greenery is timeless, and constant. In the tropics, there is no yearly reminder of Time moving on. if not for the calender, and the celebration of the new year, and the many festivals, a person living in the tropics would never be aware of Time moving on.
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