Man with a Vietnamese wife wants a divorce
Man with a Vietnamese wife speaks out
Amidst all the controversy of Vietnamese girls being paraded in small-town coffee shops as victims, a man has come out to speak of his experience. He regrets it and wants out of the arrangement.
C.H. Yip, 51 is an insurance company official and married a Vietnamese woman four months ago. He claims the 28-year-old-woman has changed, and has in his own words done everything from extorting money from him, to physically assaulting him and even threatening to emasculate him.
He ran away and dares not return to his Puchong home. He was introduced to her by his ex-classmate’s friend who is a foreign brides’ agent in July.
Yip said even before the marriage, she asked for US$1,000 (RM 3,800). He spent a further RM4,000 to buy her jewellery, a handphone and also ‘lent’ money to her brothers and mother.
“When I finally refused, she slapped, punched and scratched me,” he told a press conference at MCA public services and complaints department head Datuk Michael Chong’s office today.
A 51-year-old man and a 28-year-old-woman from different countries and different cultures. If they had met in the traditional way, their relationship would have found it very hard to survive.
Through this match-making arrangement, this man got married and is now looking for a way out. He has lost some money and endured much mental anguish but anyone could have foreseen that. The odds against the arrangement working out was stacked against them.
She could hardly have married him for love. There is no short-cut for finding a life-partner. Marry in haste and regret at leisure. Think twice. What is yours truly’s advice for this unfortunate man?
Try to make up but on commonly accepted terms. Like it or not, they are both husband and wife with all its accompanying trappings. Try to make the marriage work. Four months is too short to decide that it won’t work. He will always be bullied if he allows himself to be bullied. Give it another chance. Finding Datuk Michael Chong doesn’t help in any way. It is a husband and wife matter and should be settled between themselves.
Hey, want to wish you merry Christmas in advance!
While shepherds watched their flocks by night,
they saw a bright new shining star….
Merry X’mas and a happy new year to you too. there is a cool post on Joshua blog ..jus click the link…abt physicians and Jesus …must warn u though..u must b over 18 . it is a medical post.
this kind marriage more like “business transaction” ….no common understanding between each other….depend both parties,do they have any feeling for each other????
love? …what is love? in a way u r right, both parties have their own vested interests….the man wants a companion, the lady wants money. if in the event of a divorce, she will get more money in addition to what she already has and fly back to Vietnam a wealthy woman and marry any man she wants.
i empathize with the man though
So.. there are vietcongs in puchong!
No wonder sometimes i feel its like fighting a guerilla warfare here, with cars stabbing into my lane out of nowhere.
Sad to hear this fella got a bad deal. The beauty turned into a beast.
agree abt that guy ..his brief interlude with matrimony turned out to b a nightmare.
like yr piece abt yr childhood days…so laid back n pleasurable to read
There are conmans and conwomans out there. 4 mths is too short to make a marrige decision. How can that happened to a 51 yr old man? Is he desperate for a wife?
Loneliness….makes a man desperate…any man desperate watever the age.
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a man cannot never be lonely as long as he has cash in his pocket