Ambitious, kiasu parents in Sibu
Benghui called me from home today. He was crying.Today is the day they register themselves for the new class. School actually starts on the 3rd of January.
Parents crowding outside and inside the classroom
According to his story, he arrived at the class early today. There was an empty seat so he took it. He chose the seat because it was near the front and he has an eyesight problem.
The teacher arrived and conducted her usual routine. An hour later, a lady rushed in and chased Benghui away. She told him, ” Today my son is sick, if not: he will be seating on this chair. You must not sit on this chair again. Look for another place.” She said she was at the class early so the seat was taken. Benghui was frightened of this ‘fierce auntie’ as he called her.
While I do understand every parent wants their best for their child, there is a limit. It shouldn’t be at the expense of others. It shouldn’t be through bullying, intimidating and of course it shouldn’t be through harassment of the other children.
I don’t blame the teacher as she was probably busy entertaining other parents, collecting fees or whatever needs to be done on the first day. I cannot stand this kiasu ( afraid to lose ) attitude. When I registered Benghui for a tuition class,the same set of parents would turn up at 0630 and place cushions, bags etc on a seat and claim it as theirs for the rest of the year. It isn’t wrong except that these kids are big and fat and hinder the vision of all those sitting at the back but no, the teacher told me that other parents had complained too but she dare not approach these same set of parents.
During the school term last year, these same set of parents and kids would arrive in school about 0630 and study together in class until the teacher arrives. They would linger around the classrooms, taking photographs of notes on the blackboard, assignments etc.etc. This drive to excel should be lauded but somehow ……….
Am I being naive? Not living in reality whilst these parents are doing their utmost for their kids? Am I doing enough for Benghui? Am I being a lousy parent? Aiya..parenting is not easy ….. I blame myself for letting Benghui go through that experience.
Its a sorry state that our country has turned into. Adopted kiasu attitude (though is it really the Singaporeans?) are so rampant many a kids nowadays are losign their childhood due to ultra competitive parents.
I swear to not deprive my little girl of a childhood…but can I do it?
I don’t know but i feel real bad now:(
thx
hi bengbeng, dont feel bad. this is a great opportunity to teach ur child how to handle these situations next time. tell him to stand up to the fierce auntie. give him the words to say to her. ‘Sorry auntie, seats cannot be reserved.’ and tell him to smile sweetly at her when he says that. haha. And sit there. See if she will lift him off the seat,if she dares!!!!
Thanks for stopping over at my blog!
Anyway, about the kiasuism syndrome that is spreading like wildfire among parents in the society, we have to be prepared to see more and more young generation emerging adopting the same attitude soon. Cannot blame the kids because parents have been showing such ‘good’ example (i.e. reserving seats for their kids in school) to their kids since they enter schooling world.
I rather pity kids nowadays because they are forced to study 24/7 from 6am till the time they fall asleep. After school, they must go to this tuition and that tuition, then computer class, piano class, swimming lesson, etc. Thus everything is forced down their throat ever since.
*shake head*
In a nutshell, childhood is being ripped off these kids!
haha, sibuan ah mu all kiiasu too, anyway, no prob linking la, juz not going back till cny.. good work in keeping such a proper blog.
hi bengbeng
Parents being parents, they want the best for their children. However, ‘chasing’ Beng Hui (sounds like my own name…hehehehe) from his own seat is such a shameless way of doing things. That ‘fierce’ aunty must be very very OFF that day. I was shocked to read that parents are taking photographs of notes, assignments etc. Never heard of that happening in Kuching..hehehe.. Anyway, tell Beng Hui to be strong and what Anthony said is TRUE…
Only those with high EQ will survive because high IQ is not everything (my personal opinion)….hehehehe
Oh dear.. i feel so sorry for Benghui. what is happening to good manners these days?.. What kind of examples are we portraying as adults to these minors? Thanks for posting Benghui’s expereince here. hope it would reach to those kiasu people and hopefully, it would trigger some conscience in them.
it is the same principle as queue jumping, they want the best for themselves