We all paid a visit to the Sibu Benevolent Society Nursing Home. I was impressed. It was very clean. There were flowers and fruiting trees. But when I wanted to enter the premises I found my way blocked by an aluminium grill door. It was to keep them in rather than to keep visitors out.
Pic shows the sign board of the home which is located in Sungai Merah. It is very much funded by the goodwill of society which pour in donations and time to help the committee to serve the old folks living here.
However Chinese New Year is also here. At the entrance of the home was this tree which did cheer up the place. It was very peaceful and tranquil in this place.
We did some cleaning work. It was a pleasure to work as the weather was fine and it was great exercise. We were surprised to find two pigs and two dogs there too. Probably the pigs were donated by well-wishers and destined to be food on the dining table some time in the future.
As the toilet was locked the person in charge pointed me to a toilet in the male block. As I entered I saw an old man taking a bath. He had somehow made his way to the bath and was taking his bath all by himself with the help of hand rails by the side of the toilet. He was so frail. My immediate thought was to help him but I knew to do that would be to intrude upon his privacy. After all, I can but help him once. He has to do this every day. The thought of me in the same situation one day saddened me.
And reality soon set in. I found this little store. It was full of coffins donated by well-wishers so that burials can conducted with ease. This sobered me some. A reader commented that he is not sure if he should marry.
Well, this visit jolted me some and reminded me of my mortality.My wife and I will not burden Benghui as we grow older. I promise that to myself. But time waits for no one. The first wrinkle, the first aging-spot, thinning of hair etc. I will do all I can to delay that for me and my family. I don’t think I will want to extend my life beyond the stage where I will be a burden.
A sobering thought.
hey brother! when we both grow old later we stay in same old nursing home can onot?
Bengbeng: Tat’s a nice thought, brother …we can blog together abt our dentures, diapers, indigestion, cold nights and creaking bones
Sobering indeed..
… aiyoo, anonymous is at a loss for words liao.
Bengbeng : Silence is golden?
Long life no good also. Its burden the younger generation. I want to live until 70 only. kakaka
Bengbeng : You will live until 100 !
i think more young people should help out at these homes and experience the kind of realisation you did. makes you take a kinder look at the world, doesn’t it?
Bengbeng : more like a big blow!
Aiiiiiiii… you sure or not that these poor ah peks and ah mus are not dumped there by their own kids, who then proceeded to fork out huge sums of money on the pretense of donation, hoping that they will die quick quick ar? Aiyo. Got coffins some more. So saddddd lar.
p/s : I just failed your maths too. Forgot to answer!!!!
Most of them have no relatives to take care of them or unable to do so…I am sure they are not dumped there. They seem quite happy there too
sobering indeed, but then u should also b proud of yrself for yr good work that u r doing when u r able-bodied b’cos when u r in that stage of life, what can be more satisfying than knowing that u hv done something useful in yr life.
Angel : Nolah I am not proud of myself. I haven’t done much or anything at all. I just play my part in the scheme of things.
hi…dropped by this site by chance..
thanks to benovalent home…it leads me to this site through google.
Life is really short. Mortality is a cruel fact in mankind..
the fact is, we can never make sure we can live longer, we can never empower how our life is.. as all these are under God’s Will..
The coffins might seems to be depressing us…but, from the other point of view, ‘at least the old ones are provided with these, for their final big event of life!’
let us pray hard for their soul and health… =)
Thank u for yr comment.Personally my thinking is that since time marches on relentless, regardless of what we endeavor to do, we just got to live with it n not fight against it. Somehow after rereading yr comment, my reply seems inadequate
but i got the gist of what u r saying. i dont look forward to growong old though. Let us pray hard for our souls and health… =)
i would like to ask did u need any physiotherapist at your centre ?i would like to intro my selves
i cannot answer on behalf of the centre but as it is a charitable organization, i doubt if they have the finances. but why not go over n ask ?
Good luck. A better option would b to open yr own physio centre n do a promo blitz.
HI,
Can anyone provide me the contact no of Sibu Benevolent Society Nursing Home