My ex-fiance is so unfair
Character : late thirties, female, tall, attractive, perfect complexion, a little on the plumb side
Lee Ling: I was overseas for many years. I decided to come home when my parents decided they needed some one near them as they were getting older. I am financially okay. But I found it difficult to get a mate. A match-maker paired me up with a guy who works in a timber camp. He seemed alright and we had a date. Soon, we were a pair. He is in his early forties.
We started talking of marriage. We dated regularly, went for walks together and it was good. But he never took me home to his family. Soon it became three years. Every time we talked of marriage, he would give an excuse or other. He would use delaying tactics.
I have wasted four years waiting for him. I gave him an ultimatum. Marry me or else. He panicked, brought his sister to see me and took me home. But through the side door. I was insulted. Still, no marriage. I have rejected him. He calls me persistently. I ignore his calls.
I wasted all those years on him. All for nothing.
Do you believe in karma? Mismanagement of a personal relationship? Misrepresentation of interest? An individual being used as a decorative asset in society? Whatever and however you look at it, both individuals are still single and are unlikely to marry. They wasted each other’s time.
What a waste of resources….and time….and so painful to all parties involved
Bengbeng | interesting characters
I like to tell people “Better to have loved, than to have never loved at all”.
When you’re feeling a bit bitter and unsatisfied with him, take some rocks and throw at his car next time you pass his house.
Works a treat.
Take care and don’t think so much about it, you’ll find your soul mate one day.
On behalf: hope so too one fine day
It’s sad, but can’t really blame anyone. Everyone is responsible for whatever happens to them, aren’t they?
The girl could have decided that 2 years is the most that she can wait.
On behalf: it’s past..too late to turn back
did u ask him why he never took you to his family? Probably he’s not ready for marriage, or never want to be commited at all.
On behalf: both r not young liao
commitments come in many ways…it does not mean that even your not married your partner is not commited to you… well what is marriage, its just a routine that has to be done for a formal acceptance of a couple to live together in society..it’s what society dictates…
think of the reverse side now… you may be married but still won’t find that commitment you are looking for in a partner..
well end of the day if it was meant to be, then it was meant to be…just remember that love unconditional
On behalf: it’s too late now
at least he know what he want… not married!
BB: but it is not fair to leave one hanging on
so nice wor, no need to marry just sex enuff liao then later bored find another one!
BB: sometimes in life pride is involved
Four years have been a tad too long. Bringing one home to meet the parents is a form of acceptance, both in person as well as emotionally. It symbolizes just that - recognition and acceptance. It’s one of the things that need to be done, before more things follow. I’d say, within a year, the girl must be introduced to the man’s parents and vice versa. If one is reluctant, you can probably tell that he/she is indeed reluctant towards being serious with the other. I feel sorry, but don’t despair, some of the best things happen when you least expect it. Good luck.
BB: thanks, i will convey yr thoughts