When to let go
Benghui is now in Primary Year two. Slowly and gradually I am trying to encourage him to build up his courage and venture out at least slightly beyond arms reach of us.
I have noticed his social skills are improving lots. There are no more tantrums like the one he threw when wuching was at my house. His language skills are excellent and he asks more and more adult questions. I encourage him to voice out his thoughts.
He has recently acquired the habit of locking the bathroom door.
Today, something happened. I was typing at the computer when there was a loud crash sound. A really worrying sound. I rushed to the bathroom. It was locked. I shouted out his name. There was silence.
The door was locked. Mrs Bengbeng was hysterical. I pretended everything was ok. I coaxed him to open the door. I didn’t dare force the door open for fear of hurting him.
He opened the door. He was in a state of shock. The sink was in a thousand sharp pieces with broken piping every where all around him and the shower was still on. It is a miracle he wasn’t hurt when he fell from the sink. It could have turned out very bad. I presume he climbed up on it to adjust the hot water panel.
I hurt myself trying to remove him. My fingers are still bleeding but he is not hurt at all. He kept repeating, “I am very sorry, daddy”. It wasn’t his fault. It was mine. He could have shouted from the bathroom and i would have gone to adjust the hot water heater for him. 
He didn’t shout for me
He is now sleeping on the floor a few feet away from me.
Thank you, God!
Your fingers still okay? Don’t blame yourself, ya?
Pablopabla, at least i still got my son. I dont mind i lose a hand. thank you.
Thank goodness he’s ok. Its a miracle he didn’t slip and fall. Just curious how letting go (your post title) figured in this incident.
in the past when he was young, I always ensured he was within sight of me. always afred something would happen. it is only recently he asserts his rights to privacy and we decided to let go: so to speak-not to over protect him but to live his own life….hence his locked bathroom door…and yes that’s what happened..he slipped and fell from the sink but the sink fell with him. i could have lost him if he had hit his head on the hard toilet floor or cut something up with the sharp sink pieces. These old made in china sinks are very heavy and break up into a million pieces unlike the new ones we buy today.
Thank God!
A guardian angel must be looking after BengHui. Glad to know he’s okay, and take care of your hand also ya?
Thank you. it’s amazing he is unscratched
im not old enough to feel how is it to have a kid, but i know, there will be a time, you’ll need to let go..
thank god nothing serious happen to benghui. take care of your wound. =)
thank you very much
Thank God Benghui is ok.
Keep him close for the moment though, at least until the shock has subsided. Then let him go again.
I know the feeling.
We are so glad that we still have our kid, intact.
1 year back, my daughter (2 year old) was watching TV.
Suddenly, there was a loud bang.
I rush into the room.
The 16″ TV was on the floor, with my daughter stunned sitting beside.
Apparantly, she pulled the cord so hard that the whole TV fall from the cabinet!
It is a miracle that the TV didn’t fall ontop of her
BB: omg that must b a scary experience…childen cannot b left unattended even for a minute. i thank God. Really!
Thank God Benghui is OK.
Take good care of your hand.
I wonder whether you’re going to let Benghui out of your sight from now on…
thanks every body for yr well wishes
Glad Benghui is OK. Take good care of him and yourself.
[...] I am not sure if this post will ever see the light of day. Some of you may be aware Benghui had an accident on Monday but came out unscathed. It made me question the very fabric of my life. How fragile and vulnerable we all are in the face of unexpected uncertainties in life. Suddenly, like a deck of cards, our carefully orchestrated lifes may crumble down all around us. [...]
BB, I am sure that was one moment of your life you would not want repeated.
As a parent, I empathise the shock and fright you and your wife went through, especially that few seconds when there was no answer after knocking on the door.
I think no parent escaped a moment of scare/shock in one situation or other.
When my son (5 yrs old) got lost in a strange shopping centre in Queensland where we were for the first time, both my husband and I were in despair not knowing where to look. In the short moment of prayer, God led my husband to a fire escape staircase and found my son whose face was as white as a sheet.
I pray that the peace of God will fill you and your family beyond understanding. (Jeremiah 33:3 - Call unto me and I will answer you and show you great and mighty things that you have not known).
BB: Thank you for yr kind and may I say so sincere words
bernardchan.nt has been guiding me along too 