Korean movie: Happy Together addiction and Benghui
Korean Movie-Happy Together
School holidays has begun. I have taken Benghui swimming and spent a lot of quality time with him. However he has also spent a lot of time by himself. Finally I had to plug in the television again : literally to get him out of our hair.
He told me about Negarakuku and even mentioned Taiwan. Said he heard about it in school. That is not what is worrying me. Just two days into the school holidays and television he has been exhibiting strange ways.
There has been a lot of physical contact and some mimicking of physical violence the past few days. He has been mimicking a lot of what he sees on telly and on dvd. When Mrs Bengbeng watches DVDs, he just watches along.
I tried to explain it to him this way.
Bengbeng: People get close when they get married. Kissing is only for married people. This is only a movie. Daddy is not married to you. Try to study more and get some exercise. All these are just make-believe and not real.
The problem is that he is so addicted to the Korean series Happy Together. He watches for hours and sleeps late. He even turned an invitation to go to KFC because he doesn’t want to miss the series.
It is in Mandarin so he understands it well. He seems to have picked up a few values here and there. He is more helpful and caring for one. But Mrs Bengbeng and I feel most uncomfortable that he has become more physical since he started watching the series. It is not porn or anything like that. But …… he is only eight years old. To stop him from watching when my wife watches it is ridiculous. He will ask me why.
What would you do in my shoes?
heck! 8 year olds shouldn’t be watching those emo shows. they should be watching power rangers or star wars! he has to stop..
star wars is ok. power rangers so violent
aiyoh… even i cannot tahan to watch all those soapy kinda series. emo gila wei. i suppose if he is hooked then it is hard to unhook him la. just make sure he also watches other ‘normal’ kinda shows and hopefully, he’ll detach himself when the series is over lar…
at best i just do wat u say, show normal movies n take him out for long walks..long time i haven’t been over..sorry
I think it’s ok to expose him to some movies because there’s so much to see and learn, know and appreciate. As with all other types of entertainment, there are certain setbacks like bad influence, etc… Therefore it’s more relevant to let him learn how to differentiate the good and the bad values (so guide him on this). And also, of course, the ideal and realistic scenarios.
Anyway Bengbeng, the more repressed he is, the more curious he becomes. He needs to know that there’s such thing as such-and-such, and we must not imitate everything we see. In time he’ll understand. General knowledge, you know
Yes, yes, general knowledge..there is so much..i jus cant filter it all like FINAS
I have to say guidance of parents will make them understand what they see on telly is not always right. If there’s a way we can choose what they should be watching, that will be good. But we are not always home. Kids have access to television. And that is true what narrowband said, repression will make them all the more curious. It’s just really guidance from parents that will make a great difference.
i summarise what u and narrowband say and will explain to him the telly world, how it works
thanks
bengbeng,
Korean movie? Hmm… I rather watch Hong Kong
i seldom sit down in front of tv
but i dont know cantonese i know some mandarin
Hmm maybe can say the tv show is not suitable for small kids age below 18
Maybe wifey have to sacrifice TV time when BengHui around?
Not that easy.he is now addicted
I don’t know, keep on telling them that they’re not real? These dramas and stuff are really bad for mental development..
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You read my latest post and you will see how bad it has become
The post is gardening and parenting
Yah wor.. too soapy for a kid.. Give him road runner
he prefers to b online chatting with his frens and e is only 8 yrs old
kids nowadays are different