My father beat up my mother and I beat up my wife
Character : 1.74m Chinese male. Tradesman.
Place : Aloha Restaurant, Sibu.
Jason : You must be wondering why I am drinking so much tonight.
Bengbeng: ( I keep quiet )
When I was young and still a child, I saw my father beating my mum with a big stick. She just stood there and let him beat her. her big crime: she came home late because she had sent me to the clinic and had not yet prepared dinner.
I was six years old and I screamed and screamed for my sisters to come out of their rooms to help. Nobody came out. I took a ruler and attacked my father. It only lead to my dad taking my mum into the room and further beating her. I could hear it and I cried and cried and I promised myself I would never forgive him.
Bengbeng: But your father has passed away a few years already.
Jason: I went home. The home was in a mess. Dinner was not cooked. The children were crying. I scolded my wife and she answered back. I slapped her so hard she fell. I immediately asked her forgiveness. She just went into the room and locked the door.
I hated my father and now I am doing the same thing. 
I hate myself Bengbeng
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The cycle of violence. When a man beats his wife, he is insane. Why? When a man marries a woman, the man and woman is now one flesh.
What do you call a man who beats own self? Insane.
And the man is not free.
Hating what he sees in the father does not free him from violence. Freedom is not the ability to do anything but the ability to do what is right.
I agree but sometimes there r grey areas. to me any form of violence is wrong although in war or self defence it is necessary
If this story is true, then the 1st thing he should do is forgive his father. If he cannot forgive his father, then the same thing will happen next time. Forgiveness is the best thing man can do and posses.
forgiveness is not easy when a grouse is embedded in the self for a long time
Domestic violence is something outsiders like us can ever understand. I cannot understand how a woman can endure the beatings and at the same breath, said she loves the man. I cannot understand how a man can turn beastly and become loving husband another minute. I have seen some cases like that and in the end, best is to leave them alone because nothing we can do about it unless the woman is prepared to leave. Or got beaten to death. Which ever comes first.
sometimes there is no choice but to go on
Most of us are blessed with a loving family. Just be a good friend to him.
i am not close to the family ;(
Sadly, Jason can’t help himself. I was just talking about this topic to my assistant on Monday because her live in boyfriend came from an abusive family where the father was constantly beating them and wife.
In Jason’s case, he sounds genuinely remorseful. I believe Jason may need some counselling to help him overcome his anger. My prayers are with him and his family.
guys know what they must do n mustnt do
but sometimes we lose it in the heat of the moment
This is a problem as old as mankind (or womankind).
It all boils down to : respect oneself and others
When you are young, no on teach you respect, then you will just miss that part of value
parenting is never easy
Sometimes we get so mad we just loose it. One should always keep his cool before doing anything regretable.
easier said than done
That’s old folk la… I don’t understand, no dinner so what? I heard a lot of beating wife came from “dinner” also
Lucky my father don’t do that.. As for me, I’m the one who cook dinner, so no problem one 
:lol:
hungry lions r never in a good mood. wow..u can cook
they think they have enough stress at work.. when come back home, starving and see no dinner… itu api pun mari..
kesian those wife…
u oledi have a good man
Domestic violence is happening everywhere!
Donkey never cooks, I never get mad about her. I believe is the mindset problem, world is flat, women is equal to man nowadays, violence doesn’t solve anything but love and patient make the world better place…..
love means different things to different people
does the drinking help? he did the right thing of apologizing..
an apology is not enough for a situation like this but it is a beginning
Thank God that my pa never do such thing and hubby is a tame one with the wife beating him up instead. hahahaha… The lembut kind lar! Not the abusive one. The kind you ask ppl to sayang you back one lar. Sorry if your bulu roma berdiri!
u r one lucky woman
The situation is not good, but not too late to get help with this. No doubt a few issues to deal with here…. but he can make a change…if he wants to.
I can never truly understand how this happens, so I will not comment about anyone. I just hope that Jason will find a way to heal himself and also his family.
it is like an inheritance