Of interracial marriages, regrets and shattered dreams.
This happened in Kuching. I was at a crowded coffee shop and seeing no empty table I sat down at a table with only one occupant. I asked for permission and sat down.
Laura : You don’t remember me, do you Uncle Beng? (My senses lit up as I tried to recall this person. She was pretty, at most in her early twenties.) You don’t appear so often in the papers recently. You have been busy? (She caught my interest. I was piqued to say the least. Who is this person?)
Laura : I have two kids now.
Then I vaguely recalled memories of attending a wedding dinner. She was so lovely in her wedding dress. It must have been at least five years ago.
Laura: You were once such a good friend of Donald. What happened? You don’t know what happened do you? Did he tell you anything about us?
Laura : Our marriage was difficult even at the best of times. He was an overseas graduate. I was just a Form 5 schoolgirl working temporarily in a pub. I loved him. After he came over a few times, I fell deeply in love with him.
Gradually I followed him after work and slept in his room. I refused to tell my mum where I went. I played truant more and more from school. Soon, however my mum found out about it. She went over to Donald’s house and made a big fuss. I was under-aged. She threatened legal action.
Donald married me. I didn’t want him under those terms. But it wasn’t a bad deal. He was educated, handsome and from a well-off family. He has such a big luxurious house. I was a nobody. My mother had a low-paying job and my father was seldom around. I felt i could do no better.
It was a mistake. I have given him children. He doesn’t love me the way I expect him to love me. I didn’t finish my studies. I can only get a menial job if I leave him. I have no where else to turn. I cannot leave my children.
Bengbeng : But why are you telling me this? This is something personal between you and him.
Laura: Please go and speak to him. He is very short-tempered now and sometimes he kicks me and punches me if he is impatient. He respects you and will listen to you. Tell him to try harder to make the marriage work for the sake of the children, our children.
It has happened. It cannot be undone. I am of a different race, it is true but it shouldn’t matter. I need his support in the family as he is at work all the time.
Certain details have been omitted or changed to hide the identities of all parties involved.
Bengbeng | interesting characters, thoof
Wah …true story kah?
certain details had to b changed but yes it is true
interracial.. some of them turns out to be the sweetest… but somehow someone will object…
try entering into a interracial marriage
This guy Donald… does he work for Walt Disney? I think know him.
hahhaa…he looks very different from Donald. He doesnt talk funny like Donald too
Ah~ Another example of how women can be so dumb…and how men can be so selfish and heartless.
u have to look both sides.
Uncle Beng Beng,
Ini susah mahu handle lah…
u r absolutely right here
Wah, Bengbeng, you must be a good listener who probably comes out as a willing person to help if possible because how come you meet so many people who openly tell you their problems one?
I feel sorry for this girl but sometimes situations like this, only she can try to resolve it herself and not be afraid to leave if her husband is physically abusing her. I am not for divorce but when there is abuse, the person needs to protect herself and her children and forget about material things and or poor future. Any future is better than a husband who does not respect his wife and treats her cruelly.
sometimes there r just n other options available
very often, woman seeks for eternity when loving a man.
But most of the man only look for temporary satisfaction.
In the end, the most heart broken wan is the woman.
i dont agree. man have feelings too. it depends on the situation
i agree with bengbeng, listen to both sides. the problem doesnt lay in the race. rather, it was the situations, the naivety, the circumstances, the emotions/feelings, etc of both party that brought them to where they are today.
actions. reactions. leading to more actions. more reactions. no ending.
laura has got to be really strong and seek help from the right places. above all these, i pray God will see her through this tough time.
she is only so very young. she has a long journey ahead