Humility of a handsome man

Character: Married male, 29, very well-off and overseas graduate. I.76m and very well built.

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It is not that I am handsome. I am too short. Even with a body like mine, I do not look well in clothes. My muscles just make me look stocky. I have to concentrate more on my cutting now. I am getting too bulky.

People look at me and think i am fair game. Ladies tease me and men look at me as a threat and as competition. In night spots where people are a little intoxicated, I notice I am often ‘touched’ under pretext of feeling my muscles. They wouldn’t dare touch me ‘there’, of course.

Look, I am a normal person. I am also a parent. I am skilled in certain stuff and totally hopeless in others. I talk and mix with certain people and all sorts of gossip flow here and there. Some even think I am gay.

Because of my looks, teachers and lecturers expected a lot from me. Now, clients too expect more from me than they expect from others. I have to work so much harder than others. I don’t complain because I know a lot of my success in life indirectly comes from my looks.

It gives a lot of pressure, to perform, to be the best, to fulfill people’s expectations. I have to deal with my spouse’s jealousy too. People see me as a physical being. A male bimbo if you want to joke about it. For God’s sake. I am more than just my looks.

Once I accidentally exposed myself. My friends said it is ok. You are not a lady. You have nothing to lose. What kind of %^&&^^%(* statement is that? I felt shame too and was terribly embarrassed.

12 Comments to "Humility of a handsome man"

  1. anthony wong on 25 September, 2007

    haha, do u think he is gay?

    most definitely not. he is just wat some ppl term God’s gift to women :)

  2. Wannabe Economist on 25 September, 2007

    getting too bulky will be considered over exposure or gay in our country, lol, whereas its a total different story in the West.. =)

    this guy is not gay at all.

  3. clement on 25 September, 2007

    u ‘expose’ yourself? err… how?

    i am not humble and i am not hensem leh. u so blurr one leh hehe. this post is not about me. :)

  4. Judy Leese on 25 September, 2007

    Wow, your blog is the only one that I can comment on. The blog and comment box is not firewalled but photos are! :(

    I say this man has a chip on his shoulder.

    He needs to learn to be himself and not worry what others think of him. He has big issues man. At the end of the day, it is not about looks but what is inside the heart. It is about sincerity, honesty, humbleness and of course being rich, helps! Hahahaha….

    His attitude alone is enough to put people off him and not because he is short or not that good looking. He also needs to grow up (mentally).

    I don’t agree. I have known him for years. It is exactly like he said it is. There is this expectation demanded of him. He is a wonderful person once you get to know him.

  5. can on 26 September, 2007

    There are a lot of insecure people out there and if you’re well off, educated, good looking, buffed and reasonably happily married; they’ll hate you. Be grateful for what you have and make the most of them. Eventually, they’ll shut up or you’ve left them so far behind that it doesn’t matter.

    No, he’s not gay. Such a person in the gay scene, would have the world is at his feet.

    the grass is always greener on the other side :)

  6. Adino on 26 September, 2007

    Just tell him that most people are jealous of him la… and he shouldn’t put too much pressure on himself.

    he takes it in his stride. if u tell him, ppl r jealous of him, he will b shocked n laugh but will never believe u

  7. leishia on 26 September, 2007

    oh dear. whether we are ugly, in between, or even good looking, we are always insecure. how lah liddat. human are so…. erm, insecure! heh

    a secure person is a rare species. however as we grow older and older, the insecurities get less n less for most ppl

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  9. Dan on 26 September, 2007

    You work out hard to look the way you do. You’re obviously concerned about your looks, since you say you “have to concentrate more on my cutting”. And when people react to the way you made your body look, it’s making you uncomfortable? You’ll forgive me if I don’t have that much sympathy for you. That makes about as much sense as a girl dying her hair blonde and getting a boob job… then complaining that people look at her as a sex object. Human interaction, first impressions, seduction, is all based on looks; if this is news to you, I don’t know what to say.

    Hahaha..thanks for yr comment. this is a category interesting characters not me. laughter aside, your comment is very true and is the basis of attraction as you said

  10. Bernard on 26 September, 2007

    Dan,

    I think you misread the post. Bengbeng was talking about someone else la …

    … although Bengbeng DOES look like the fellow he described, eh? *ahem*

    Bernard, you are so funny hahahahahahah

  11. wuching on 27 September, 2007

    what? did u delete me comment?

  12. Bengbeng on 27 September, 2007

    Wuching, sorry i deleted the comment. he is a real person and has feelings. the comments r not so suitable

    sorry :)

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