Character : 35 year old female, clerk at the supermarket. Height: 1.60m, weight 84kg, Long wavy hair and very huge eyes. One front tooth missing. Never exercises and deeply tanned. Has three daughters.
Her dad is somewhere out there. If he waits too long, when he comes back, she will be so bitter, there will be no forgiveness.
Anne: The principal just called me. My eldest daughter San San is in trouble again. I don’t know what’s wrong with my daughter. I have given her everything within my means. She turned out to be rude, insolent and wild. When I dropped her at the tuition centre, she called her boyfriend and went off until it was time for me to pick her up.
I only found out when I went to pay for her tuition fees and the tuition teacher was surprised. Apparently she hadn’t seen San San for ages. She said her school teacher asked for RM100.00 as a donation for the school’s poor students. I asked around and found out it was untrue. My phone keeps ringing every day and it is always boys seeking her and asking her out.
It is not as if she is pretty or anything. She doesn’t care about her school grades She is only concerned about her hair, her nails, her skin , her make-up. Sometimes when I scold her because her clothing is too revealing, she will have a tantrum and refuse to speak to me for ages.
It is not my fault. It is her dad’s. He used to give her lots of money every month and encouraged her to be independent. One day, he just walked out of our lives. He returned home to West Malaysia. Haven’t seen or heard of him since.
,But this whole approach is going the wrong direction. What if she gets pregnant before she finishes her form 5 ( o’ levels equivalent ) She doesn’t respect me although i work myself to the bone for her. She blames me for her father walking out!
I am her mother. I know what is best for her. I been there before. I can help her. I can be her best friend and protector. Instead she sees me as her jailor and a spoilsport! If only I had a son. 
i would trade my three daughters for a son. A lovely son on whom I can rest my weary self one day.
so bengbeng do u rely on benghui for your future?
do i have a future? i dont even know how long or how short my life span is
to reply yr question, when he finishes his education and finds a job, my work is finished,… depend on him? u gotta b kidding.
haha, u r v gloomy today. haha. i suggest u do benghui and yourself a favour and get another child or even 3. it is a big burden for one child to look after 2 parents. my family has 6children so it is easy for each of us to share the cost of looking after our parents. it is no more expensive to look after 3 children as to look after 1. if u have one, u worry too much about him, have 3 and not only the one wont be so precious, but u will have a lot of practise bringing up kids, and u ownt repeat the same mistake on the other two. haha. i know because i m the fifth child and by the time i came round my parents learnt all the mistakes they make and brought me up perfectly.
i am the 4th and the only son
Actually is quite tough for a single mum or single dad to bring up children. Some more nowadays kids are smart and not so easy to teach lol..
i tell my wife, show our kid love and he will reciprocate but my wife thinks doing the same will make the kid indisciplined. dont knowlah
I am the one who rise up in both parents were very busy, until there is 1 week I seen them once only. Not because they never came back just I wake up early than them, and sleep before them come back.
However, I understand their reasons, and they work really really hard for this family, and the company. And I am shy to get money from them, besides, I always thinking the best way to pay back, from my academic, my karate medal(last time), to buy my own stuff with blogging money, and even they want to support my university course, I insist to take loan and pay back myself. Really thank you to you 2 who rise me up, and provided me with basic requirement. thank you.
(this is not really much related with this post, just some of my feeling when I read the post)
wuah, i admire your resolve. i dont blame my parents for our poverty. but in the end like most other Malaysian we all clawed our way up and out of the poverty cycle despite and in spite of the various government measures against us in the bid to restructure society. we all did it despite the odds against us
but u r probably too young to understand
I don’t think it’s about having daughters or sons – gender should never be in question. What’s more pressing is how the child was raised, and the childhood he/she had. The upbringing. Having a son could be just as equally challenging.
a son can carry on the family name
Well, I know of many who want to trade their sons for daughters instead because they always complain that in old age its the daughters who take care of them better than their sons.
i think that observation is passe in this modern day and age
guys are more loving n caring nowadays 
I guess the issue is not about boy or girl. Perhaps not having her father as a role model means that the girl looked for a role model elsewhere. This is why some men can be so terrible to abandon the family. This is the result they don’t think about.
they went to the police for help. a check with the immigration showed that he had left the state for KL. other than that nobody knows.
“i would trade my three daughters for a son. A lovely son on whom I can rest my weary self one day.”
I don’t agree with her saying this. =/
i think is a reasonable thing for her to say since she has lost her husband..but she doesnt really mean it…giving up her daughters..it is jus an expression