Adultery and the dominant wife
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Character: Ling Poh, 38 yrs old. 1.7m and weighs 65kg. Mother of three.
When we first got married.we had nothing. I bought a cheap foldable mattress and we rented an apartment on the top of a shophouse.
I have slogged for him, sold kuih and done a lot of other work. Some how along the way, we have prospered. We now have a beautiful home near Farley Supermarket. Three beautiful children including a son. All doing well in school. What else does a husband want?
He is unfaithful now. I knew it. I sensed it. I felt it. I had no proof just a gut instinct. The ungrateful %&^%$#%. I will not let him go. A part of his property is in my name. My stupid husband. If he goes any further than his petty affairs, I will take the money and his children and leave him. It will happen so fast that he won’t know what to do.
My friend telephoned me. I went to a hotel. I knocked on the door. I heard sounds but there was no reply. I went down to the lobby and asked for help. They refused to help. Said I should not annoy their hotel guests. He had actually called the lobby to get security to remove me. I called him on the hotel line and true enough it was his voice. He thought it was the reception calling him.
Later that nght, he came home prepared for a fight. I just locked myself in the bedroom. Everything that needs to be said has been said. It is up to him now.
I can still look for another man. I am still beautiful. But I won’t. I have my children. I have to care for them. My husband is hardly home nowadays. My business is also taking a lot of my time. I don’t need his money for the family to survive.
Maybe, we should just separate after all.
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A sad family tragedy again. I just feel sad and worry about the kids, as this incident might bring negative effect in terms of their psychological development
kids will manage very well. nowadays kids watch tv.
after the anger has subsided, the couple should sit down & have a honest talk - whether the relationship can be salvaged, & if not, how to separate with the least trauma for the children.
the wife should decide if she’s partly at fault & the guy, if he wants to continue with the affair.
all can be concluded in a civilsed manner.
nothing will happen i am sure. life will go on. this is Sibu
wuah! so sexciting!
it is a big deal
What is it about men? They want their cake and eat it at the same time. Grrrrr……
Every child handles separation in different manner. Sometimes you find the younger one can’t cope as well as the older one. It is all up to the charater of the children.
children r very resilient
Find another man and the same thing might happen again? A case of history repeating itself perhaps?
Your busines is taking up much of your time you say, could it be your neglecting your husband? Don’t alway blame the man. Just some counterpoint.
you got a point
Why some married guys never think twice when they want to start an affair with other. His wife sacrified for the family, and the children and the happy family. Sigh…
things r never that simple
gee.. that’s so sad.. why men cannot appreciate what they have?
Sigh…It is happening everyday and everywhere but still feel sad and disappointed when heard or read…
Jeff has a point. Sometimes it’s not entirely the guy’s fault.
But to know who’s really at the wrong requires mature thinking/discussion…which isn’t a normal thing. :/
Divorce him … dont waste your time and energy on this person. He is a very selfish person.Being caught red handed and still insist that he is innocent…
Live will go on… put in more time for your children and your business. Forget about him… Live with and for your children… dont look back… Throw away his belongs and kick him out…
The law is with you… ask him through court for allomony… Dont let him go that easy….
I know how you feel as my wife cheated on me as well….
I am so sorry to read of your anguish. I am the author of the blog. I am not the woman concerned. i saw them together this morning. i didn’t bring up the issue but they look a very normal family with their children. This is Sibu. Life has to go on.
Untying the knots built up through the years n division of property is very messy
All I can say is this is unbelievably sad! I’m going through something similar and not much good has come of it.
Good luck with your situation and may God bless you and keep you safe.
i will pass yr comment on to her