Perfect marriage and divorce
What is your definition of a perfect marriage? In the olden days a guy would be asked by his parents to marry a girl based on a photograph and he would not see the girl until the wedding night. It was believed love would blossom after marriage. Those marriages lasted forever or as the marriage vow says,’till death do us part’. I sometimes wonder whether every body up above or down below are swinging singles 
But these marriages sometimes do not work. Sometimes couples do not even communicate and if they do, it centres around their children. When the children leave the nest, oops…suddenly u look at the guy/lady opposite you and you realize you have nothing else to live together for.
I was asked tonight if I have a perfect marriage. Well, I don’t. If anybody says he/she does, I would treat the claim with suspicion. Marriage after the initial ardor needs work to keep the romance alive.
A lady shared that she was shocked when she saw an elderly couple still holding hands, smiling secret smiles to each other and acting lovey-dovey. It sometimes happens when the spouse is a replacement wife
How do you view your marriage? Is the romance still there? When did it stop? How do you keep your marriage alive? Has divorce ever seemed a reasonable course of action especially when kids are involved?
Another guy shared that if a lady would want to snatch him from his wife, she would smile and say, ” Ke tor “, meaning quick take/grab. Of course it is because there is absolute trust in their marriage. Another lady of generous proportions was shocked that a wife would even get jealous of her. She said, ” Come on, She looks divine and look at me. I thank her for even thinking I am competition
There is no way a spouse can monitor the other half twenty four hours a day. I believe common interests are of course also very important. How do we keep our other half from straying?
More important, I hope to hear from you your thoughts on this 
Hm, there was a really good blog article I found quite a long time ago that (exactly) touched on this. Can’t seem to find it anymore. :/
And I can’t quite remember exactly what it is. :/
Will let you know when I find it before the next millennium.
it will happen before u even realize it. no need for the next millenium
Me and hub married at a very young age and most of elderly one predicted that ours will not even survive for a year, we’re now on our 18th years..I may say that we’re not a perfect couple as the saying goes there’s no such, but I may say our love for each other became more intense. open communication,don’t take him/her for granted no matter how busy you are w/ work, kids etc. just reserve time for both of you 1 sat a week is not bad,no kids allowed..you two can “makan kopi” talked about your first meeting etc…my comment is “panjang” already, to be continued hehe..
have a nice day, beng
u sound so romantic
serious..mrs BB an I r very down to earth kind of people. 
bet yr life mus b fun
My theory on marriage is that for men, it turns out better than they thought, and for women, it turns out worse than they thought, mostly because women think its the beginning of the world, and men think its the end of the world.
I have been married to my sibu sweetheart for 14 years. I was worried to get married, thinking she would be trouble. (She was kind of wild). It turned out to be the best thing I ever did in my life. Marriage changes people, you just do not know how.
- Flyfisher
in life we all have to take chances
My hubby ask me nearly every day if I got another on the side. Then I reply “Siaw ah! Got nothing better to do meh! Entertain you and the kids oredi want to KO! Ask me to entertain another outside?” I still don’t and never will understand Y he ask me this all the time.
In my point of view, he’s the better looking half. I’m the one who should be doing the questioning, but I don’t. Mine’s a definate “Not Perfect” marriage as we have quite offen have our squabbles and plate throwing sessions.
My conclusion: Marriage is a Subject of Life. A Course in Life Long Learning Programme.
“…It sometimes happens when the spouse is a replacement wife” LOL!
I’ve been married less than a year, so I can’t input too much on this topic.
I don’t think there can be a perfect marriage because nobody’s perfect. But I believe that it’s possible to make your marriage work and stand the test of time.
it takes a lot of work n compromise
Perfect marriage : trust, responsibility, caring, growth, cooperation, persistency, patience, thankful.
Haha…
hope u will experience a perfect marriage
One more important one = respect
I’m not married and you know. but what i would like to say is that maybe there is no such thing as a perfect marriage but wat we can do is that we can always minimize the imperfections because I do think that every marriage is perfectly imperfect and that’s why you have each other, to minimize the imperfectness.
and of course i think give and take is the key in everything. forgive and forget .. because there are a lot of expectations when it comes to relationships. Dissapointments lead by underachived expectations .. well, from any sides la. my take on it, the ability to forgive and forget is very important. It’s divine in a sense. It might be hard to do but at least we try, if we don’t try meaning that we never give each other a chance to at least avoid bigger dissapointments that might ruin it all. Oh another one, do listen to your partner attentively and sympathetically. In that way, at least we can share the dissapointments that we have had, what we are facing and what will we be facing in the future, because we never know. So, don’t wait for everything to be in place, because while waiting we might miss the best shot.
whoever marries u will b one lucky gal
Haha..I love CheekyBear Conclusion!!!
Marriage is a Subject of Life. A Course in Life Long Learning Programme.
The 2 person in the marriage have to learn together. It will not help if only one is learning and the other is at a “pause” stage.
I think nobody has a prefect marriage. I used to think that some of my friends had a perfect marriage. But when you know them better and longer, they started to pour out their woes. Then I truely understand this proverb å®¶å®¶æœ‰æœ¬éš¾å¿µçš„ç» “Every family has a text which is unpleasant to read.” .
And the question on “How to keep the other half from straying?
I think there is no way to stop the other half from straying if they have the thoughts straying… Sometimes life sucks!
I would like to say that many people are misled b y outside ideals about what a marriage should or shouldn’t be. I have been married for 6 months. Our key to a happy marriage is to never go to bed angry. I know several friends that don’t seem to share the same philosophy .We always make up and usually 20 minutes after the incident happens. 45 minutes if we are really angry. Pick and choose your battles. Most things are not worth arguing about. Besides this is the person you are suppose to spend the rest of your life with so it’s better to make love not lies. Better to be happy than sad. Better to share your life with someone special rather than be alone.