My husband is stealing my children from me
Character : small coffee stall operator, mid 40s
Lydia: God is so unfair. I dont know what sins I must have committed in my previous life to lead this kind of life. I met my husband when I was 28 years old. He is not handsome or rich but he was interested in me. And he was a man. That was enough. He told me his marriage was only in name and his wife didn’t love him.
He left me soon after my second was born, a girl. I have had to work days and nights raising up my children. Every single grain of rice, every piece of clothing on their backs are from my toil. Washing the cups, saucers, selling drinks at my stall. I was tired every single day. Not a day of rest.
A year ago, my husband’s first wife’s son kicked him out. He came back and asked for forgiveness. I thought of how nice it would be for my children to have a father around. It would make our family look more respectable too.
I agreed and he moved in. Now in so many ways he has taken over the home. He pays the rent and buys the food on the table. The children now hate me as I am the one who has to beat them to make them study, help me at the stall. He tries to be the nice guy. They now turn to him for support. I can do nothing now.
It is so unfair. Where was he all those years? My children are actually afraid of me now. I am their mother. I know what is good for them. What if he decides to move out tomorrow, next week or next year. I try to warn my children but they think I say that because I am jealous. I am not. I am just worried they will be hurt just like I was.
I should never have let him into our lives again.
Bengbeng | interesting characters
brader what kinda ppl you meet everyday? its mind boggling the way they think!
BB got alot of stories to tell one.. haha..
hi bengbeng, i enjoy these character sketches. and they are real people not fiction or stories. Thanks so much. i bet someone writing a novel can use these character sketches or combinations to make up the people in a novel.I bet her view of things is more common than people realise. and actually i sympathise with her. I think she is wrong to interpret it as her husband stealing the children from her, but i can still sympathise with her interpretation. She has been responsible and sacrifice a lot of her own comfort and dreams for the children. it is galling to see him swan back into their lives and they all fall for him. I agree it is unfair on her. The thing is if she had not thought like that, she would long ago have abandoned her children and given them to her parents or other people to look after. So i can well understand why she feels bitter, not only at the husband, but also her children. She must think they are ungrateful brats. I yearn to tell her, think of it as a blessing that the children has a father, and u can have a help mate, and this time, let him support u for a change, and u can take it easy now. Tell him that is the condition of u letting him come back. That way u wont feel so bitter as it’s his turn now to support u all. but of course it would be of no use telling her. Nothing is learnt by someone else telling another how to live their lives. haha.
Anthony, I will tell her next chanz i get but in a more subtle manner. how long will he stay is the million dollar question
Sorry to hear that. But why don’t you talk to him about this? Try to really open up emotionally. All the best to you. Anyway I just wanted to tell you that you’ve been tagged!
http://tekkaus.blogspot.com/2008/03/my-answers-for-being-tag.html
BB,
Wordless Wednesday is supposed to be wordless but I always have so much to say. hehe….
Put up a photo for readers to comment. You may add some words to explain the picture. Link to WW site.
WW is available everyday, you can put up a picture a day.
thanks
Quite sad.
I guess, only time will tell how it turns out. What is a bigger issue is, she may be impatient and aggrevate the entire situation.