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| From Benghui |
I came home from gym and knew I was in trouble. Mrs BB was not in a good mood.
Mrs BB : You go to the gym and leave me home all alone to feed and educate your child. ( Oops …when she says my child and not hers I know I will receive a long lecture 
) I have learnt from experience what is good is hers and from her side of the family and whatever is bad is due to me hahahahaha
To cut a long story short, we have compromised on the situation in a win-win situation. I will sit at the same table with Benghui every night while he does his homework and studies. To occupy the time, I will blog. Occasionally if I am busy, the two hours will have to be replaced during the weekend.
Benghui is pleased as punch. It is a pleasure to teach him ( kidding ). It requires so much patience. Perhaps I should get some home tuition for him but I believe I can teach him better. It works like this. I will ask him if he has any homework he has not finished in the afternoon.
I also have a stock of other reference books to complement his school books and keep him busy. Occasionally I reward him with KFC and such stuff if he does exceptionally well in for example essay writing or Mathematics. Chinese language and other subjects in Chinese are a problem but when he faces problems he goes over to ask my wife.
I wonder how long before the novelty of this home tuition wears off But so far so good. It also disciplines me to two hours of doing work rather than waste time on the sofa idling. Keeping my fingers crossed. Benghui seems so happy for me to accompany him at the same table while he is studying. I must be doing something right.
How do you solve this problem of a kid too lazy to study?
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| From Benghui |
Surprisingly he is taking this tuition seriously. Sometimes when he studies by himself, hours pass by without much results. With me here, he seems to be able to finish more work. But I suspect in a week or two, when the novelty wears off, Mrs BB will be groaning and ranting again. Poor Bengbeng. Poor me.
Why is it that parents can teach everyone but their own kids? HA HA HA HA (Kidding)
Hey but my folks are teachers ok.
But you turned out well
Wow, how i wish i were treated the same way! Keep it up Daddy!
Indah khabar dari rupa
The same story repeats in every house. So distant, but similar.
parenting stories…. parents r the same every where ..want the best for their children
You had your fishing trip *wink*
Treat this as your ticket to another trip *wink*
Just kidding!
It is not that easy to motivate him.
We would have to wait until the novelty wears off and then we can see the true picture 
Beng Hui must be so happy, to him you are his hero dad, I am guessing your presence motivated him to do well and to make you proud. I was something like that when I was a boy.
Wow! Benghui sounds like a well-disciplined child huh! A chip of the block? Yeah! You get to spend quality times with him.
Mrs BB is on my back all the time to make sure it is like that
I know why he’s happy. Because you’re giving him your support just by sitting there. I know I will feel the same way too.
Btw you’ve won the dog signage contest. Hop on over. Congrats!
Thank you. I will go over later
BengBeng must be fierce lah
. that is BengHui scared of you so sit there gwai gwai do homework haha 
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Nolah, i am not the fierce one
i can never study in front of my parents…
You turned out super well though
It is easier for me to get the wall to move than for my kids to study. I have given up telling them to study. I only tell them if they don’t keep up their marks or position, then they are not allowed to go to Kuching during the holidays (of which this is their favourite thing) So… I still win without the hassle of losing my patience and raising my blood pressure! Hahah.. U’re lucky BB.
Yr kids have something to motivate them. Benghui doesn’t. He is so happy go lucky. He doesnt care abt anything except to live day by day
You and the Mrs have raised a fine son together.
Looks like she deals with the business side of raising your son eg. education and nutrition. And looks to me like you deal with the more emotional end of it. Allowing him to write in your blog is a great outlet for emotions, especially for a young boy. And as the male parent, he will model himself after you.
Just let your wife let off steam by ranting a bit. That’s what we wives do sometimes, hahaha.
Mostly I close my ears
I cant survive otherwise
hahaha… nice approach. just keep him motivated. share some good things that leads to a good future by studying well.
Thanks Dong. Keeping my fingers crossed
I never had home tuition before. Don’t know how it feels like. I suppose benghui should be well used to it.
He will soon get used to it i hope
BB and Mrs BB should take turn, each 1 hour.