Growing old and old age blues
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| From life is a journey |
Character : Uncle Joe, mid eighties.
Uncle Joe: I have good children. I have left my daughter’s home. She was not happy. One day my daughter will grow old too and I will tell my children to take care of her when her time comes.
I married early. Had so many children. Raised so many children. It wasn’t easy. With my hands I did it.
So many children cannot take care of the both of us. I understand. They have their own families I don’t care what excuses they give. I do not want to be trouble. There is no room for me.
I cannot live with married daughters. What will people say? They have a mother and father in law. My daughter in law is a working woman. She earns money. What can my son say when the mother in law moved in? There are few jobs in Sibu. My sons are all living not in Sibu.
I now live with my youngest daughter. When her mother in law comes back I have to go somewhere. I do not know where. I am like a ball. I go here and there. When it is time, they will share my lands and shop houses. Now I am just trouble.
I wish I could live alone with my wife but I cannot. I wish I can go to the church to visit Jesus. But I am stuck in the house. My car is useless to me now. My strength is not the same now.
My time will come when it comes. Trust and obey. Just believe I tell myself. Time moves so slow and so fast. I am not so proud anymore. Any day God can come and bring me home. I am willing to go. I just pray my family will stick together and not break into pieces.
I like Father’s Day and Mother’s day and Chinese New Year. My children and grandchildren will come to ‘hocksai’ me and I love my grandchildren. I don’t want to live too long but I am still healthy. Sometimes there is anger in me. I feel sad but what is there to say? They are my children.
Everybody grows old.
Sometimes people just do not understand what it is like to be in daddy’s shoes or understand the meaning of love
11 comments Bengbeng | interesting characters
Yeah! It’s sad sometimes that 10 children can’t even take care of 2 parents. Is a shame actually! I will take care of my father no matter what happens. =)
what can i say? u r an example for others to follow
growing old….growing young….didnt they always say cherish now?
past, present and future, they r all interlinked
he got money, so why dont he give an allowance to his daughter to look after him and to help here with her expenses? why wait till he is dead for her to get the money? and even when the will is read out, the daughter who looks after him do not get more than the other children. i often think it strange why people dont give the children who look after them the money now whilst they are still alive.They ahve to pay someone to look after them anyway, so why not give it to the daughter or son who lets u stay and look after you?
In this particular case, the whole family is relatively comfortable the finances i mean.. so money doesnt really matter
Not to worry too much. It starts from now, get prepared and grow togehter with our children.
Whatever you are doing now, you will get it in the future.
It is not easy to b a parent. To b both a disciplinarian n a caring parent.. it sometimes conflicts.. the roles i mean
Dad’s gone… so got to treat Mum extra good…
Yes, treat yr mum extra good
reading this is sad, but a reality. i hope he learns to make the most of what he has now, not save what he has to leave to his children, his children can manage, but he deserves to be happy. he can sell what he has and get care for himself if the country does not support healthcare for the elderly, it may sound strange, but he is very right, his kids have their lives too, it is great if his kids turn back to him and take care of him, but if they don’t, he is prepared.
He is a wonderful dad
Sometimes there is also another side of the coin. Some old folks will make life on earth hell for you … I guess it is not their choice, for some their mind degenerate.
Many would agree with you about this unfortunately
You are talking much aout old age lately huh?
BengBeng, you thinking of old age liao ar?
I am
I always think that why parents have to give all their properties and money to their children? It’s rightfully their money and we as the children should not hope for that… Instead, we should try our best to take care of them and provide them with whatever they need. 20 years of upbringing is not easy…they sacrifice a lot for us le… Cheers for our parents~~!!
Cheers
Life still goes one no matter old or young. Important is to live with a smile.
Smile
it’s hard to be a parent… so much responsibilities.. many kids don’t see and treasure their parents and families lie how they should.