Good mother, irresponsible son
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Female late forties, mother of three daughters and a son
Dorothy : All for nothing. All those years of sacrifice for nothing. I spent so much time, effort and money for Jason’s education. I sat with him almost every night to make sure he is not left behind in his studies. I sent him to tuition, made sure he took part in all the school curricular activities. I wanted to give him the head start in life I never had.
You want to know what happened? His friend decided to skip sitting for the Sijil Pelajaran Malaysia SPM ( the local equivalent of the O’levels ) and he decided to go along. His friend accidentally leaked it out just now when he called.
At the age of seventeen, he has only a PMR certificate to his name. Let us see how he will survive without an education. He had everything he needed to get good grades but he chose to go his own way. I could kick him a thousand times and not stop. My husband will whip him when he finds out. But he stopped listening to us a long time ago. He will even fight back against his father. He had no responsibilities. All he had to do was to study and at least try to pass some papers.
How can he be so irresponsible and immature? Many of his friends I heard were busy studying until the moment they entered the examination hall. I called Jason and forced him to go to school immediately. He told me it was pointless as he had already missed sitting for so many of the papers.
Why is this happening to me? I have done everything I can. I made all these sacrifices for him. All for nothing. I have invested seventeen years of my life in him. All for NOTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!
13 comments Bengbeng | interesting characters
I totally feel how this poor mother is going through. I have my fears on this too. If it were me, I will also not know what to do ….
Eventually, some are just not cut to study?
I kind of think if i have a kid next time, i won’t know what to do either… i would probably bame myself for not teaching the kid right. but in fact it is true that it would be the parents fault… but what went wrong? where did it go wrong?
its a everyday’s life events.very sad especially if it happens to single-mothers.im talking about single-mother becoz my sister is one.she single handled a son untill he went to university and now her son(my nephew) dont even calls home or very seldom do so ,to ask how’s her mum! may be its her karmic’s account which is due.
he can retake SPM next yr since he skipped many paper. if he skipped BM paper as well (means gt fail), he can retake the SPM next yr
What a good and cool advice by Vincent, but it still much depend on the young boy.
poor thing…frens are very important….mix with the wrong crowd and your life is gone..i have seen many examples too….
Goodness. The useless friend should not have told Jason what to do. That’s why I think it is important to know all our children’s friends.
i think it is important for parents to know the friends their kids are mixing with. teenagers are at that age where peer pressure and influence are stronger than family. i think there needs to be a mix of both.
Sometimes youngsters really go astray no matter how close you supervise them. Parents should have a closer look at their kid’s peers because they are the one who greatly influence each other.
As a mom, I know the despair this mother’s must have felt . Is anywhere she can sent the boy to? someone to counsel him and get him in the right track.
i am afraid it is too late
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I agree with you Bengbeng. It’s too late. Sometimes giving the best opportunities to a kid is not enough. Putting him/her on the right track in life starts from day one, age one.
There used to be more than one channel in Sibu to help young people like this boy and his mother – Ling Chu Ming School and Pilley School and other private schools and night school run by the SUDC. Many had more than successful lives after these schools.
SPM is really the gateway to a steady life and higher education.
I feel very sorry for the mother. But not all is lost if the society at large and the family in particular can help the son go through these difficult times. He too needs counselling and a lot of love.
May he find an angel to help him find the right path.